eightpurpleelephants


Parenting Responsibility
August 7, 2011, 8:08 pm
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I believe you cannot be too upset by the choices your children make.  They are a direct representation of you and your parenting skills.  I also believe you must live the example you wish your children to be and to see.

If you want your child to grow up as an adult who is responsible and accountable for their feelings and emotions–you must be accountable for your emotions and feelings.  This means, you cannot fly off the handle the second something doesn’t go exactly how you would like it go.

If you want your child to be responsible with money or material possessions, make smart decisions, and be a contributing member of society– do not give your child everything, give them challenges to practice responsibility, and be a contributing member of society yourself.

Teach.

If you would like your child to be accountable, be accountable.  Practice consistency and talk and reason through issues or problems.  Follow-through.  Return to issues and problems once they have been resolved and “check-in” with emotions and feelings.  This is going to reinforce accountability.

Listen. 

I know this is time consuming and tedious but do you realize you have the most important role on the planet? Raising and shaping the life of another human being? This is not to be ignored or taken lightly.  Parenting is full-time.  Even in your sleep, you are parenting.

I receive this information through observations of adults and children who are currently/have been in my life.  I also believe that if something doesn’t work–quit doing it.  Try something new.  Look at it with fresh eyes. People make mistakes. That is definitely understandable. Learn from your mistakes.  Loose your ego-if not for yourself, for the benefit of your childrens’ future.


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Nothing is more debilitating than to care about something you can’t do anything about. And you can’t do anything about your adult children. You can want better for them, and maybe even begin to provide something for them, but in the long run, you cannot do anything about someone else’s vibration other than hold them in the best light you can, mentally, and then project that to them. And sometimes, distance makes that much more possible than being up close to them.

— Abraham

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